How I Give Advice To People

I am listening...

I don't wanna brag, but lots of people have come to me for life advice. I also have my own advice column if you ever wanna anonymously ask me something weird or embarrassing ( see tab " Ask Yalei " ) above. I've noticed that there are certain mannerisms and features in which i give advice to people, and i want to relay them to you.

1 GUSTO
Whenever i give advice to people, I always feel like you gotta 'overpower' them. Not so much that you're talking at them, but you have to be the driving force. You have to have this overpowering message that " Fuck it, you can get through this bullshit ". Whenever i give advice to people in real life, my whole mannerism changes. I start waving my arms about, my voice takes on this tone of rock hard certainty and ashamedly, i start to sound a bit like a seminar freak. But it's all about gusto. It's a sort of swag. People who give advice ( that i listen to ) have this power of being like " Fuck it, this is the way it is and damn you're gonna suffer but it's worth it "

2 GENUINE
People think that i'm sort of a bitch but when it comes to giving advice, my heart is for the people. I don't know why, but i just have this real energy for helping and motivating people. I have thought about being a life coach but i just don't think i can do that as a living. For some reason, it just doesn't mesh well with me. I am a writer and that's all i'll ever be. It's all i can do. I am writing a self-help book at the moment so i guess that's the fusion of the two. I feel like there is a wealth inside almost every person that they can tap into but don't. It's happened to me and i feel like other people can do it as well

3 ACCEPTANCE
Wanna know something depressing? Most problems can't be solved, per se. They are only forgotten with time. When i give people advice about things, i try and insert some kind of reference to ' time heals all wounds '. It's certainly healed a bunch of mine and i know that it is the driving force of healing behind all of life's hardships. I believe that there are experiences in life which we can't forget. But those are experiences which we don't live within in every moment of the day. We have it in a box inside our minds that we open every now and then to reflect upon. But they are not glasses which we wear on a day to day basis, distorting the way that we see things.

4 ACTION
Bloody hell, this is the most important thing to undertake but also the most difficult. When i give advice to people, i urgently tell them to act immediately. The sooner one can get shit rolling the sooner things start to change. I don't care if you're Madonna or just some kid down the street. As soon as change is instigated, change in the future happens. But it's so hard to get up off of your ass and to actually start implementing discipline. But i feel like it's the things in life that are hard and which make you feel suffering which matter in the long run. I tell people to start that very moment, that very day when they want something to change. I know it's easier said than done but it must be done.