Noone Tells You What it's Like to Reject

I genuinely believe that all girls, yes all girls will have at least two guys after her that she won't want in the course of her life. And I'm not talking about super babe girls either. The matter of the fact is that you have a vibe and a narrative which you have absolutely no say over. Your life is lived with half of the story revealed to you. The other half, exists only in the heads of your friends, your workmates, the opposite sex and the people that populate your world who you don't even notice. Basically what i'm saying is that there is a version of yourself that you have no control over, roaming all over the place. Sort of scary but also powerful, don't you think? We can spend so much time asking other people what we're like but we'll never know. Perhaps it's for the best.

This is the same for boys too. What i really should make clear is that you'll be the object of someones desire more than once in your life and whats more, you won't want it.

In life, people develop feelings for each other. It's basically unavoidable. The unfortunate thing is that in life there always has to be one person who retains more control and power over the other. One person always loves more in a relationship. We hate this other person because they never get hurt as much and can walk away easier too. Somehow at the end of the day, we also end up going back to them despite all. When you say no to someone, you're this person. It's an odd feeling. One part of you feels immense power whilst the other side of you is being crushed by the very same power. Being this person isn't all its cracked up to be. You feel responsible for every uncomfortable moment, you feel paranoid people are gonna talk shit about you and you feel like the biggest bitch ever. In the face of rejection, nobody wins. We are all losers in the face of love.

Overly sentimental people ask you why couldn't you have let them down easy or have said yes to be nice. There is never a nice way of letting someone down. Rejection can't be done elegantly or gracefully. No will always be a kick in the teeth. It's best to rip the band aid off quickly than to slowly peel it back. We should all say no abruptly and without regret. It sounds harsh but let me tell you, it's for the best of both parties. We shouldn't go into something when our hearts aren't fully in it. It's lying to ourselves and to the other person. To let someone down slowly or to try desperately to let them down easily is like twisting a knife slowly in someones heart. Wouldn't you rather just stab it outright?

To be the one in the seat rejecting someone else's advances to you is not pleasant. I'd go to say that it's almost has bad as being rejected. The only difference is that you have the power in the situation as opposed to being the one letting it go. There is absolutely nothing pleasant about being the one letting someone else down. You feel guilty and you feel responsible for someone else's disappointment. It's hard because you have experienced disappointment before and now you're the one inflicting it on someone else. But no one should ever have to be in something they don't want to even for the sake of niceties. In fact, that's just lying in my opinion and will warrant a response as bad as rejection.