Tuesday, February 10, 2015

On ' High Maintenance ' People


I think i'm someone who's fairly high maintenance. Not as high maintenance as some other people but that's only because i can cover only as far as my means allows me to. Given more means, then the more maintenance i can upkeep. I often look at myself in the mirror or when i'm in a waiting room for something and think about people i've met who don't have to do what i have to do.
I once had a friend who told me that she had never been to the doctor in her life. I felt amazed at that since going to the doctors is such a staple of everyday maintenance. The fact that she had never set foot in a doctors office felt positively foreign to me. I have things i don't have to maintain but take pride in maintaining, such as my nails. I like getting them done because it provides a sense of self preservation. A way of reminding myself that we deserve a certain level of maintenance simply because we are a part of society and everyone has to keep up with the Joneses, so to speak. Then there are other things which sit in blurred territory to me. Such as seeing a life coach and a GP about medications etc. Do i really need to be medicated and/or seeing a life coach? To me having a life coach seems like a luxury, albeit one that i'm funding for entirely on my own. Don't most people just shut up and get along with it? And in the area of medication, shouldn't i just suck it up and try to be more proactive in changing my perspective as opposed to allowing myself to wallow in my feelings?

I guess i think i'm high maintenance because of how far things affect me, which isn't to say that nobody else gets affected by things. It's just, i think that i don't have a very good buffer when it comes to self-discipline. The thing is, being an extremist like me doesn't really give you much opportunity to be able to monitor or edit yourself like most people can. When you're doing well, nothing can get you down. But when you aren't doing so well, you kind of break... completely. I have employed tactics now that will manage my thoughts and feelings recommended to me by my life coach and past shrinks, but I know that it will be a life long battle. I feel like people who are high maintenance, usually are ' special cases '. Most people do not need that much assistance.
They are either impaired in someway or perhaps need to be 'replenished' after giving out what they give.

High maintenance people do what they do and ask for what they ask for because they need to be replenished and rebooted more often than most people. The reasons can vary but if you ask me, i think they put out more than the normal person. When i say 'put out' I mean a thousand different things. Work is just one. But then there's energy, emotions, worry, anxiety and even love. The more you give out, the more you need to be put back 'into' your system. The less you give out, the less you radiate, the less you need to be compensated. The more you are able to afford, the more you'll need. The really unfortunate thing is that there is a great lack of regression in life. As long as you have enough means to do something, you can always take it further. You can take it so far that it can end up maiming you. Freedom is a total gift but more times than not, we are so good at abusing our power so that we go overboard and end up causing trouble to ourselves.

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