This is something that's been brewing in my mind for a long time and now it's finally come to a halt in its development to crystallize into a life doctrine. Basically, our need, desire and our urgency to be cool, to have cool jobs, to look cool, to be friends with people who we believe are cool are stopping us from being able to enjoy life. That sounds really dumb, but let me assure you it's absolutely true. You might already know this, in fact I think that we all know how our need to be cool and to be reassured that we are cool can become very taxing on our minds, but the harder thing to do, is to grasp this way of seeing the world and adopting it as a part of our mental attitudes.
All my life, i've cared about what was cool. As did basically ALL of my peers too. But now that i'm 23, i do not give a shit at all. The people that i was intimidated by, cannot fulfill my life if they want to be my friend. The clothes that i want to wear and buy, are all attainable providing that i can save money, the jobs that seem so amazing and great do not hire me not because i'm not COOL enough, but because their computer crashed that day they were going to send me an email. Young people ( But mature people as well, for their version of cool is probably who's doing the best at work, who's making the most money, and who's wife is the most beautiful ) need to stop putting cool at the top of their priority list. Easier said than done, i admit but let me provide some sort of help. Cool is something that stops us from being able to live life properly. I'm definitely going so far as to say that. Not doing something because it isn't cool, when you actually want to do it, is mental torture. Don't let the reason for what you stop yourself from doing, because it isn't cool. There really is nothing more immature and insecure. Caring about what's cool is something that reflects poorly upon the person who is doing the caring. It makes them seem tense, unsure and caged in by their image. There's a difference between having taste that one might think is cool though. You can like ' COOL ' things but when you stop yourself from doing something because it's un-cool, then there's a problem there. Especially if you really feel like you should do that thing. One thing that i hate more than anything, is the rod-like stiff attitude that pervades the Melbourne social scene these days. I can feel their sigh of relief when they are presented with someone like me who doesn't care about what they look like or wear as long as they get along with me.
Not caring about what's cool or not shows that you are truly stable and secure with your identity. Although that's a lot of pressure to be putting on people, what we should be doing is aiming to find solace in who we are, as opposed to aligning ourselves to what other people want.
Caring too much about what's cool can prevent you from getting anywhere in life. You need to take the opportunities that are out there whether they are cool or not. Whether the brand, company or establishment is cool or not, if they are lending a hand out, you take it. Real life isn't like high school. No one cares about what's cool anymore, everyone is too busy meeting rent, trying to spend more time with people they care about or simply trying to get a snatch of " Me " time. You've got to see people, cool is something simply for people who are insecure of themselves. They need reassurance that they aren't dud. That's the crux of it. To me, a person who is comfortable, friendly and easy going in their nature has my respect a hundred times more than a well dressed person who acts rude and dis-interested. I can't stand the type.
Let the reasons for why you don't want to be part of something or to be friends with someone be more genuine and real than them not being cool. Let it be something that affects you on a deeper level.
I think that i've denounced this ' cool ' attitude thing for a while now. People are just the same at the very foundations. The only thing that separates us all is our social make up. Our beliefs, ideals and desires. At the end of the day, we just want to be said hello to when we're walking into a party.
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