Who's afraid of Solo Women?

Some of you may know that i've never been in a relationship. As time goes on, i feel less and less need to get one. If you ask me, i don't think that a man could give me anything that i can't get myself. In short, they cannot offer me anything.
Love is so un-important to me that it has receded into the dims of obsoleteness in my life priority list. I asked one of my friends why men are so afraid of approaching me. She replied it's because i seem too self sufficient and independent. She also said that i have a vibe which is " not to be fucked with ".

Yesterday another friend of mine said that this was both a compliment and an insult that i exude this sort of vibe. I don't really get why it's an insult. Why is it insulting that i seem self sufficient and independent? Is it because guys are too afraid of approaching me? I have no qualms about women who are desperately in love with their partners. That's a really wonderful thing. But i don't like it when women start to look for men for things such as reassurance or self-love. It's what i don't like, but it's something that i understand is beyond my opinion. I think women have tumbled into this place over time themselves.

I really love women. Not in a lesbian way, but i truly love women so much. Especially women and girls who share my love of not needing men as a prop to get through life. I like women who are independent and have found a place in their life where they know that there's noone in the world that can really get them out of their ruts. That's something that has to be worked out solo. My words come out of a mouth belonging to someone who's lived a life of hardship in terms of relationships with men.

Well, that's true. Because i've never been brave enough to go after the people that i've been interested in. I don't think i can do that. Two people should come together naturally. If not, i respect the person in the relationship who has the balls to do something first. I think that's really incredible to plunge yourself into something head first. It only serves to make them stronger in the long term. Solo women seem intimidating to men because they feel like they have no role to play in the relationship.
Although we've come a long way from tradionalist perspectives about relationships between men and women, it's still very much there. Even if it's just a low hum.

I've always had this very unusual way of thinking about men and women. Although through this post, i sound as if i am glorifying women ( especially, independent gutsy women ) i've always seen men and women as PEOPLE and as HUMAN beings that are completely devoid of their sex. When i talk to men, i talk to them as if they understand all the girly stuff that i like. I talk to them openly about my feelings and emotions and guess what? They understand because THEY ARE HUMANS. This might be getting weird, but emotions and experiences are not gender based. Men and women both feel sad. Men and women both want things. Men and women both don't want to go to work on Monday. So if a man feels intimdated by a woman because she is so ballsy and indepdent and self sufficient, he isn't seeing her as a person, but as a WOMAN. There's nothing wrong with this. It's just so expected. I think i have a very distinct balance of both the masculine and the feminine within me.

I know that i'm a female, but most of the time, i feel like i'm neither female or male. I'm just who i am.