He's just not that into you

I've seen this episode of sex and the city before and i love the way that Miranda takes this advice. Instead of feeling rejected and mopey, she says that to be told " he's just not that into you " is  liberating. It will save her so much time in chasing after the guy ( forgot his name ) she was dating at the moment. I love this reality check. It hurts and it's not easy to accept but once you do accept that whoever you are dating doesn't dig you, you're free. Free to do shit that matters, free to move on and meet other people and forge opportunities that are gonna get you somewhere.
Given the fact that the world of dating and relationships isn't something i'm really involved in much to the dismay of my mother and curiosity of my peers, i generalize this " he's not that into you " attitude to a wider scope. They're just not that into your resume, She's just not that into your new jacket, He's just not that into your jokes, she's just not that into your attempts to impress her. What the he's just not that into you mantra is about, is basically accepting that life is a bitch and we have to move on when we are rejected no matter how much false hope we have in the situation.

In my opinion, you can measure how mature and worldly a person is by how they deal with rejection. The most mature people that i know handle it with grace and dignity. They remain positive despite hurting inside ( Coz who wouldn't be? ) and exercise persistence despite failure. I love people who are like this. It gives all of us hope that no matter how hard we've been pounded into the cement that there is still hope in the future. I've always said that everyday is different so who knows what tomorrow may bring? But looking back to the world of love and relationships, i can see how someone telling us " He's just not that into you " can be a total pain bomb. For one, the private world behind our eyes that is our mind is very much like a snoozing cat that we love to stroke with tender affection. We love what we don't know because it's here that we fill in the blanks and retort with self righteous passion that " That can't be proven until it's proven ". In the meantime let's indulge in our imaginary worlds to make it through life. I think that indulging in private fantasies is fine, but only up to the point where you don't truly believe that it may happen. It's OK as long as you are not deluded about it. It's OK if you know the odds of that happening are slim.