A Friend Indeed / ' Sure ' People

When did we all reach that point where we no longer feel compelled to make new friends? When we grow up and our tastes become less wide ranging and we know who we like and who we don't faster and with less indecisiveness. When i was younger, everyone was welcome into my inner circle. But now, I feel like the friends that i do have are the ones for life and it's becoming harder for me to accept new people and for others to accept me into their lives as well. We're experimenting less with others and we're looking at the people that we already have and thinking, "You're probably it for the next ten years". 
 
People who continue to explore, be creative and experiment with new people remain young in their hearts and they continue to be lively and active in the world. Maybe i'll have a revival in a couple of years but right now, i'm comfortable with the people around me. Speaking to other people, some mirror my ideas about finding new friends and partners in life at this age. It's becoming so difficult to find people that you really 'connect' with in life. It's never been easy but it's gotten even more difficult in recent years for me. I think it's just because i know who i am more. I think i'm generally more picky and more discriminating with who i share myself with. You try people on for a couple of dates and you decide very quickly that you don't want to see them anymore or if you do. You just sort of know instinctively whether it's worth it or not. Time is the mark of quality i feel, and the friends that you have for a long time are the ones that are 'worth' the most.

When we realise that it's hard to find new people, we look at the people that we do have and this is when the relationships between ourselves and these people get stronger and stronger. I really believe that. I don't find it hurtful if people don't let me into their lives anymore because it clearly means that they are just those 'sure' people. People who have stopped trying to ' find ' that level or that place. They have already found it and they don't bitch, moan, complain or yearn strongly like they did when they were younger.
I feel like i'm a ' sure ' person now. On my bad days, the insecurities still get to me, but by and large i'm a sure person. Sure people are usually older, but you find them amongst the 20 somethings too. Don't be too disconcerted if a sure person doesn't let you into their lives. To be honest, it's the best thing because noone's time is getting wasted.